se souvenir de vs. se rappeler

The French verbs se rappeler and se souvenir both mean “to remember” or “to recall.” They are often interchangeable in meaning, but they differ mainly in their grammatical construction.

1. Se souvenir de

Se souvenir de is followed by de before a noun, pronoun, infinitive, or some other complement.

Examples:

  • Je me souviens de cette journée. – I remember that day.
  • Il ne se souvient jamais de ses rêves. – He never remembers his dreams.
  • Tu te souviens de moi ? – Do you remember me?
  • Elle se souvient d’avoir rencontré Paul. – She remembers having met Paul.

Before a plural definite article, de contracts to des; before le, it contracts to du:

  • Je me souviens du film. – I remember the film.
  • Nous nous souvenons des vacances. – We remember the vacation.

When followed by a que clause, de is normally omitted:

  • Je me souviens que tu étais là. – I remember that you were there.

2. Se rappeler

In careful standard usage, se rappeler takes a direct object without a preposition:

  • Je me rappelle cette histoire. – I remember that story.
  • Elle ne peut pas se rappeler où elle a mis ses clés. – She can’t remember where she put her keys.
  • Nous nous rappelons la première fois que nous nous sommes rencontrés. – We remember the first time we met.

The construction se rappeler de is very common in contemporary French, especially in informal speech, probably because it is influenced by se souvenir de. It is nevertheless traditionally considered nonstandard or less appropriate in formal writing.

A useful contrast is:

  • Je me le rappelle. – I remember it.
  • Je m’en souviens. – I remember it.

Here, le is the direct-object pronoun used with se rappeler, whereas en replaces de + noun with se souvenir.

Meaning and nuance

The two verbs usually express the same general idea. It is not accurate to say that se souvenir always describes spontaneous or involuntary memory while se rappeler always describes a deliberate effort. Context may create such a nuance, but the distinction is not a fixed grammatical rule.

In general:

  • se souvenir de is extremely common and often sounds slightly more reflective or literary.
  • se rappeler is also common and is often used for a specific fact, name, detail, or event.

Conjugation

Present tense

PersonSe souvenir deSe rappeler
jeje me souviensje me rappelle
tutu te souvienstu te rappelles
il / elle / onil se souvientil se rappelle
nousnous nous souvenonsnous nous rappelons
vousvous vous souvenezvous vous rappelez
ils / ellesils se souviennentils se rappellent

Passé composé

Both verbs use être because they are pronominal verbs.

With se souvenir de, the past participle agrees with the subject:

  • Je me suis souvenu – masculine speaker
  • Je me suis souvenue – feminine speaker
  • Elle s’est souvenue de son nom.
  • Ils se sont souvenus de l’adresse.
  • Elles se sont souvenues de l’adresse.

With se rappeler, the reflexive pronoun is normally indirect, because the thing remembered is the direct object. Therefore, when the direct object follows the verb, the past participle does not agree with the subject:

  • Je me suis rappelé cette histoire. – masculine or feminine speaker
  • Elle s’est rappelé son nom.
  • Nous nous sommes rappelé cette journée.
  • Elles se sont rappelé les détails.

However, if a direct-object pronoun comes before the verb, the past participle agrees with that preceding object:

  • Je me la suis rappelée. – I remembered it.
  • Il se les est rappelés. – He remembered them.
  • Elles se les sont rappelées. – They remembered them.

Etymology

Se souvenir de

The verb souvenir comes from the Latin subvenire, meaning “to come up,” “to present itself,” or “to come to mind.” In French, se souvenir developed the meaning “to remember” or “to have something come back to mind.” The preposition de is part of the verb’s standard construction.

Se rappeler

Rappeler is historically related to Latin re-appellare, meaning “to call back” or “to call again.” The prefix re- expresses return or repetition, while appeler is related to the idea of calling. Thus, se rappeler originally conveyed the idea of “calling something back to mind.” The phrase “to recall intensively,” however, is not an accurate explanation of its modern meaning.

Summary

  • se souvenir de quelque chose = to remember something
  • se rappeler quelque chose = to remember something
  • Se rappeler de quelque chose is widespread in everyday French but is best avoided in formal writing.

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